“I HAD HIGH STANDARDS AS A SINGLE LADY BUT IT WASN’T HIGH ENOUGH”
If you read my last post, you may think of me as;
A girl who knew what she wanted, enjoyed being single, wishes she was single again and a go-getter.
Ok, maybe the third point didn’t shine through in the post, but I’ll have you know that I am most definitely a go-getter; I go for want I want, I don’t play around. Like the time I had my eye on a guy who to me seemed perfect, I thought to myself, “I will make him love him,” lo and behold it happened; it was clear for everyone to see, but what was not clear was how I felt about him, no one could tell. When it became apparent that this guy liked me, at the time, I had seen a few things that had made me reconsider, so I went to God in prayer.
The first time I heard No, I had to make sure it wasn’t a mistake; the second time, I heard “No” again, and that was it, almost immediately; I kept my distance. To be honest I was already starting to see the distance, which I think may have been because I was not making my feelings known. Anyways shortly after, he changed his Facebook status to ‘in a relationship”, and someone who knew the chemistry between us remarked to me, saying, “you snooze, you lose.” I smiled within me, I knew he wasn’t for me because if he was for me, he would be with me.
Yes, I know what I want, and I go for what I want but sometimes what I want is not for me. Similarly, what I desire could destroy me no matter how good it may seem, so I always have to check with my father up in heaven.
If I had what I wanted, I would not be with my husband today, and some would say that I had a high standard; that’s why I was single. Yes, I had standards, but it wasn’t high enough if you ask me, so if a man tells me I had high standards, to start with, that man is most definitely not the one for me (no need to pray about that one).
I only had two things on my list when it came to standards which I would share in a future post. Still, when I say I don’t have high standards, no one believes me. I don’t know if this still happens to single ladies (who probably love being single). Having high standards should never be mentioned to them, especially if they have not complained to you about their singlehood or asked for your opinion.
You know what, I am glad I don’t get what I want sometimes; I am happy to wait. So this is my encouragement to you; Seek the Lord in everything you do; you may not always get what you want even when you go for it, but be rest assured that in Christ, you will get what you need.
