The Undervalued Wife

The undervalued wife

If you think marriage is easy peas, you are not married; you are simply co-habiting (lol).
Now don’t get me wrong, I am not saying marriage can’t be easy, but I believe you have to overcome a certain huddle. At specific points in your marriage, that will test both participants. Your love will sometimes dwindle, you would question if you married the right person, doubts will set in, and yes, you would probably feel alone.

I mean, I have only been a few years in, so what do I know, really, but I am tapping from my experience and at least one that I have witnessed. Many of what I say are from my very own adventure. Yes, I do question where this boldness comes from, I talk about it as one who has been many years down the line, but hey, an experience is an experience, a story is a story, and you either learn from it or be entertained by it (your choice).

Look, I have watched at least one woman who spent her entire married life undervalued most of their life, and I thought to myself, “what’s the point.” Why do we have to go through this in the name of marriage, or is it love, or is it the need to become a mother that’s made us this way? I am not sure which one is (perhaps someone can help me out ).

Now there’s so much I want to say about being undervalued, but I’ve noticed that I cannot tell this story without presenting the man as a horrible being and neglecting the fact that the man may be feeling undervalued. I can only speak for myself as a woman who thinks that your man is good most times, but he’s just ignorant of what he’s doing to you.

Ps: My therapist said to me one time, “have you considered making a list for him? I scoffed and said it’s common sense (lol). Yh! As we know, common sense is not usually as common as we think it is)

Here are a few notes I have taken, and I would like to point out;

If you have a wife who allows you to be you, who is not checking on you 24/7, who is not worried when you say you are going out, BE CAREFUL…thread carefully.
What I am saying, in essence, is, please don’t abuse it;

How do you do that;
Even if they don’t check on you, it shows something when you call them to let them know where you are, let them know where exactly you are going in case anything happens; it’s nice when you choose to spend time with them instead, take them out, plan dates on your free time and so on.(to be continued)